Conflict Management and Communication Counseling
Conflict and communication struggles are normal in every relationship. The way couples handle these moments often determines whether the relationship grows stronger or begins to break down. My work focuses on helping partners manage conflict constructively, communicate with empathy, and reconnect in ways that bring lasting closeness.
Why Conflict Happens
Conflict doesn’t mean your relationship is broken—it means you’re human. Disagreements often arise when needs aren’t being met, when communication shuts down, or when old patterns of criticism, defensiveness, or withdrawal take over. What matters most is how you repair and move forward together.
Steps to Repair Conflict
When we work together, I’ll guide you through clear steps that help repair and rebuild connection after conflict:
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Create Emotional Safety
Healing begins with a safe space. Both of you need to feel heard, respected, and free to share your feelings without fear of judgment or backlash. This safety makes honest conversations possible. -
Own Your Part
Instead of blaming, I’ll help you each take responsibility for your role in the conflict. Owning your part builds accountability and prevents the cycle of criticism and defensiveness from taking over. -
Listen With Empathy
Listening is not the same as waiting for your turn to talk. True listening means slowing down, reflecting back what your partner is saying, and acknowledging their feelings. Even if you disagree, empathy helps de-escalate tension. -
Express Vulnerability, Not Attack
Sharing what you feel and need in a softer, more vulnerable way opens the door to connection. Saying “I feel hurt when…” has a much different impact than “You always…” Vulnerability builds closeness; attack creates distance. -
Shift From Winning to Working Together
Conflict is not about who’s right or wrong. It’s about finding solutions that work for both of you. I’ll help you shift from power struggles to teamwork, so you solve problems without eroding respect. -
Repair in the Moment
Every couple fights—but strong couples repair quickly. Whether it’s through humor, a pause to cool down, or a simple “I’m sorry,” small repair attempts in the heat of conflict prevent deeper disconnection. -
Rebuild Trust Through Positive Action
Repairing conflict doesn’t stop with words. I’ll guide you to reinforce positive habits like appreciation, affection, and consistent emotional check-ins. These actions build trust and make it easier to handle future disagreements.
Communication That Brings You Closer
Healthy communication isn’t just about avoiding fights—it’s about creating a relationship where both of you feel understood, valued, and connected. Together, we’ll work on:
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Breaking negative cycles like criticism, contempt, defensiveness, or withdrawal.
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Turning toward each other instead of shutting down or pulling away during conflict.
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Practicing active listening so you truly hear and validate one another.
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Using softer starts when raising issues to reduce defensiveness.
The Goal
The goal of this work is not to eliminate conflict. It’s to help you repair faster, communicate better, and come out of disagreements feeling more connected—not less. With the right tools, you’ll build resilience, trust, and emotional intimacy that will sustain your relationship through challenges.
As your therapist, I’ll guide you step by step so you feel supported and empowered. Together, we’ll transform conflict into an opportunity for growth and create a stronger foundation of love and respect.
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7120 East Orchard Rd., Suite 303
Englewood, CO 80111
818-497-7034
